Relationships, Codependency, Psychotherapy, Concise Advice

Relationships

Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will ever have. Dysfunction in your early, primary relationships causes rifts in this relationship. You need to heal these wounds in order to sustain satisfying relationships in the present — with yourself and others.

Psychotherapy – How it Works
In my Psychotherapy practice in Bath, UK, I work on the principle that dependency causes compromise, resentment and self-alienation. To comply, and to protect your authentic self, you create a false self. You use other people to 'be' for you, to live your life through. They let you down. You are acting out unresolved childhood issues in your current relationships. This causes struggle and conflict. You may avoid relationships, isolate and struggle with yourself. You need to complete your growing up.

By taking responsibility for your own life you can confront, forgive and forget the past and, through the resulting freedom to make your own choices and decisions, gain true independence.

Having reclaimed your authentic self, you can express yourself without guilt or fear. You have meaning and purpose in your life. Then you can safely inter-depend with others – openly and honestly. You can see yourself in a wider social context, within which you can play a useful part.

Without meaning and purpose you feel incomplete. Your potential lies dormant. You may feel satisfied, but not fulfilled. Lack of purpose causes dis-ease and depression. You seek compulsive behaviours, unhealthy relationships, codependency and addictive substances and behaviours to fill the emptiness and kill the pain you feel.

Psychotherapy helps you to heal the relationships in your past. In doing this you heal your relationship with yourself; and with others around you. You spread love because you love yourself; fulfilling your own needs and desires by doing what you want to do most. You are happy because you are functioning from the centre of your being, filling yourself from your own resources. Anxiety diminishes.

To facilitate this healing process, I use my training in Psychology and Psychotherapy, my study of spiritual philosophies, plus insight, honesty and down-to-earth practicality, gained from the experience of my own journey; but mainly I use what you bring because you know what is right for you. I help you to bring this to birth, aiming to guide you from dependence through independence to inter-dependence; from where you can make your unique contribution to the world around you, and your own decisions for your life.

Couple Therapy
You bring into your relationships the patterns of your pasts, the people who have influenced you in your upbringing and the behaviour you have learned from them.

In relationships you are consciously attracted to what you believe will improve you and your life; but unconsciously you attract partners who have similar uncompleted childhood issues. This is your psyche’s attempt to heal the past. If you have no other models, you continue to use self-defeating behaviour, which prevents healing and causes conflict and blaming. You lack the tools for managing this conflict.

In my work I recognise your relationship as an entity and listen to what it, as well as you, the partners, is telling me. I listen to the interaction between you; to what you need and what the relationship needs. I also listen to the voices from your pasts that are still influencing you, and help you to find your present reality and work with it.

By facilitating open heart to heart communication, within a safe environment, I enable you to separate from your pasts and to identify and satisfy your needs in the present, together with the needs, and purpose, of your relationship. I help you develop the tools you need to allow differences, to find meeting points, and to deepen love, trust and intimacy; to achieve independence and promote interdependence.

Short Term and Intensive Therapy
I offer short term therapy, by arrangement, and Intensive Therapy for those who do not live locally. If necessary, this can be combined with my Email Service.
  • I live in the beautiful Heritage, Spa City of Bath.
  • Accommodation and cultural, historical and healing activities are plentiful.

  • There are good transport links to London, Wales, The Midlands, the North.
  • Bristol International Airport is nearby.

  • Bath is also close to beautiful countryside and historical sites.
  • You can combine intensive, short term therapy with short or longer trips.
Periodically, I am available in Southern Spain.

Groups
I offer The Relationships Workshops and am available to work with Groups.

Please contact me to discuss your needs.

Wendy Freebourne
Psychotherapist,
Relationship Counsellor.
Wendy Freebourne MSc





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