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Relationships
Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you will
ever have. Dysfunction
in your early, primary relationships causes rifts in this relationship.
You need to heal these wounds in order to sustain satisfying relationships
in the present — with yourself and others.
Psychotherapy – How it Works
In my Psychotherapy practice in Bath, UK, I work on the principle
that dependency causes compromise,
resentment and self-alienation. To comply, and to protect your authentic
self, you create a false self. You use other people to 'be' for you,
to live your life through. They let you down. You are acting out unresolved
childhood issues in your current relationships. This causes struggle
and conflict. You may avoid relationships, isolate and struggle with
yourself. You need to complete your growing
up.
By taking responsibility for your own life you can
confront, forgive and forget the past and, through the resulting
freedom to make your own choices and decisions, gain true independence.
Having reclaimed your authentic self, you can express yourself without guilt or fear. You have meaning and purpose in your life. Then you can safely inter-depend with others – openly
and honestly. You can see yourself in
a wider social context, within which you can play a useful part.
Without meaning and purpose you feel incomplete.
Your potential lies dormant. You may feel satisfied, but not fulfilled.
Lack of purpose causes dis-ease and depression. You seek compulsive
behaviours, unhealthy relationships, codependency
and addictive substances and behaviours to fill the emptiness and
kill the pain you feel.
Psychotherapy helps you to heal the relationships in your past. In
doing this you heal your relationship with yourself; and with others
around you. You spread love because you love yourself; fulfilling
your own needs and desires by doing what you want to do most. You
are happy because you are functioning from the centre of your being,
filling yourself from your own resources. Anxiety diminishes.
To facilitate this healing process, I use my training in Psychology
and Psychotherapy, my study of spiritual philosophies, plus insight,
honesty and down-to-earth practicality, gained from the experience
of my own journey; but mainly I use what you bring because you know
what is right for you. I help you to bring this to birth, aiming to
guide you from dependence through independence to inter-dependence;
from where you can make your unique contribution to the world around
you, and your own decisions for your life.
Couple Therapy
You bring into your relationships the patterns
of your pasts, the people who have influenced you in your upbringing
and the behaviour you have learned from them.
In relationships you are consciously attracted to what you believe
will improve you and your life; but unconsciously you attract partners
who have similar uncompleted childhood issues. This is your psyche’s
attempt to heal the past. If you have no other models, you continue
to use self-defeating behaviour, which prevents healing and causes
conflict and blaming. You lack the tools
for managing this conflict.
In my work I recognise your relationship as an entity
and listen to what it, as well as you, the partners, is telling
me. I listen to the interaction between you; to what you need and
what the relationship needs. I also listen to the voices from your
pasts that are still influencing you, and help you to find your
present reality and work with it.
By facilitating open heart to heart communication,
within a safe environment, I enable you to separate from your pasts
and to identify and satisfy your needs in the present, together
with the needs, and purpose, of your relationship. I help you develop
the tools you need to allow differences, to find meeting points,
and to deepen love, trust and intimacy; to achieve independence
and promote interdependence.
Short Term and Intensive Therapy
I offer short term therapy, by arrangement, and Intensive Therapy
for those who do not live locally. If necessary, this can be combined with my Email
Service.
- I live in the beautiful Heritage, Spa City of Bath.
- Accommodation and cultural, historical and healing activities are
plentiful.
- There are good transport links to London, Wales, The Midlands,
the North.
- Bristol International Airport is nearby.
- Bath is also close to beautiful countryside and historical sites.
- You can combine intensive, short term therapy with short or longer
trips.
Periodically, I am available in Southern Spain.
Groups
I offer The Relationships
Workshops and am available to work with Groups.
 Please
contact me to discuss your needs. |
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Wendy Freebourne MSc
Healing Relationships
with Self and Others
Cutting Through 
the Confusion
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